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TheQueen
02-08-2010, 11:49 AM
"Marry Him's" Lori Gottlieb: Settling and the single girl
Lori Gottlieb talks about her controversial dating book, which has some women fuming and Hollywood courting

By Sarah Hepola

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Rare is the book that infuriates and captivates like Lori Gottlieb's latest. From its unapologetic goal -- to help unhappy single ladies get hitched! -- to its grabby, "oh no she didn't" title ("Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough"), women haven't argued about a dating book so ferociously since we first learned he just wasn't that into us. "Surprisingly, unnervingly convincing," wrote Alex Kuczynski at O magazine, while over at the Daily Beast, Liesl Schillinger tarred it as "whining, capricious, corrosive." In the meantime, Tobey Maguire's production company snapped up the movie rights, and Gottlieb has been interviewed everywhere from Dr. Phil to the "Today" show.

Gottlieb is an accomplished journalist, best-selling memoirist and 42-year-old single mother who would like to find a husband. After more than two decades of dismissing potential dating partners for silly reasons (one doomed fellow is guilty of nothing more than being a redhead), she sees the error of her unrealistic, perfectionistic ways. "This isn't an advice book or a dating manual," she writes. "It's an honest look at why our dating lives might not be going as planned, and what our own roles might be." At its best, "Marry Him" is a sensible, old-fashioned plea to look past the superficial, to discard the toxic fantasy of romantic comedies and think realistically about what makes a solid partnership.

Read More:http://salon.com/books/nonfiction/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2010/02/07/lori_gottlieb

Christy
02-08-2010, 01:36 PM
I could've sworn you'd posted this already, then I realized I read it on my own yesterday or so on AOL :lol :goofy

Well, if you get past the title to see what she's saying, it's the superficial she's saying that needs to be overlooked. Nothing on a deep moral ethical spirital level does she say should be compromised. :dunno

figmentmom
02-09-2010, 08:29 PM
I could've sworn you'd posted this already, then I realized I read it on my own yesterday or so on AOL :lol :goofy

Well, if you get past the title to see what she's saying, it's the superficial she's saying that needs to be overlooked. Nothing on a deep moral ethical spirital level does she say should be compromised. :dunno

Yes, I agree that her point is to look past the surface, and see what kind of person that potential mate really is - underneath the career, the height (or lack thereof), and whether or not he or she lives up to the ideal of a dream mate at first glance.